We Can't Become Ourselves by Ourselves
What the hell does that mean??!!!
Life is full of contrast.
Often times when I ask someone what they want, they are unsure, or not completely clear, what they do know is what they don’t want.
So we start there.
The people, circumstance, situations that show up in life are there for a reason to help you navigate towards a path that is more to your liking, more in align with who you are and what it is that you really want out of and from life. It’s easy to play the blame game when a partner is less than perfect, a boss or coworker just makes life miserable, a situation that you feel you have no recourse but to ride it out no matter the consequences. What is being presented is the opportunity to explore, grow, learn, evaluate, define, search, seek, become aware of who you are, what you need, what makes you happy, what brings you peace, what enriches you. That person, that situation, that circumstance is highlighting an area that needs to be looked at, anything that causes discomfort or makes you pause is the universe’s way of saying something’s not right, it’s pushing you to go in a different direction.
Where do I start, this may seem overwhelming, how do I even get there from here…
You must be willing to step outside of your comfort zone.
"Nothing will work unless you do." -Maya Angelou
Taking action in spite of your fear is a feat in and of itself. It’s not easy, in fact most days it feels like you’re pushing a boulder up a mountain.
You’re not alone.
Have you ever gone white water rafting? (I’m going somewhere with this, I promise.)
When you hit the rapids there’s no choice—you’ve just gotta paddle for dear life and trust that you’ll make it to peaceful waters soon. And when you do get to the other side (and you always do) all of that paddling is so worthwhile.
That’s exactly what this phase of building a life is like: It requires so much trust in yourself and your abilities.
You’re right smack dab in the middle of those turbulent waters that demand stamina alongside constant surrender.
Here’s the thing: when you do what you love, have family and friends that understand and support you, then building a life that satisfies your soul isn’t all that difficult. But you have to believe that this is possible, that the job you hate is just a means to an end, it’s pushing you to discover what it is that not only feeds you, but supports you. That relationship that is dismissive and disrespectful is telling you that it’s time for you to have respect and love for yourself.
You may be thinking easy for you to say, you haven’t walked in my shoes.
No, I haven’t.
But I will highlight some of the circumstances that have been a part of my life. They may be shocking to some of you, they may give you reason to doubt that I have anything to offer, that I am a fraud. It doesn’t matter, this is my year to be transparent, I no longer fear your reaction. I know who I am and I know who you are and if you are not the someone you feel you should be then when you’re ready you will make it so.
I have been homeless.
I have been in a physically abusive relationship.
I have been an enabler.
I have used alcohol to numb my feelings.
I have had at times strained relationships with family members.
I have doubted myself.
I have been fearful of what others thought.
I have not felt good enough.
I have felt like the victim.
I have felt envy of others more successful than I was.
I have doubted myself.
Still with me?
All of those things helped me to not only get clarity in my business, but to gain clarity in my mission. I am meant to show you a path, a door or a window to a life that belongs to you, that is of your making. Teaching you how to be present and find sustenance of all kinds. To help you create, nurture, and see the beauty in your everyday life. To inspire you. To teach you to trust…yourself.
Don’t wait until everything is perfect to start building a different life, if you do you’ll never begin. Don’t give your doubts the time of day. Don’t look down. Celebrate every little success. Don’t judge your first act by someone else’s sixth. Don’t forfeit a day of your life that you’ll never get back for someone else, something else. You will only be you this one time, don’t squander this gift we call LIFE.